Knowledge Booster

  Assalamu Alaikum

Contributed by Sister Shoruoq

Since I reverted to Islam I’ve often done tons of research to know how to become the best wife I possibly can Inshaállah. I’ve noticed it’s very easy to find compiled lists of what a wife should and shouldn’t do but also noticed how hard it is to find that list for brothers. Why does everyone concentrate on the wife? Wife must obey the husband, wife should look pretty for husband, wife must keep a clean home, blah blah blah the list goes on. I’m not saying that the list isn’t in any way wrong because I try my best to practice those duties as a wife but I think “some” brothers also should remember they have duties more than just bringing in the money. So as to a few requests I’ve gotten from sisters here is a list I was able to compile from two articles written by scholars.

“Among His signs is the fact that he has created spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquillity with them; and he has put love and mercy between you. In that are signs for people who reflect.”
[Qur’an 30:21]

“They (wives) are garments for you, while you are garments for them.”
[Qur’an 2:187]

“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. “The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” [Bukhari and Muslim] (more…)



So you’re sitting down with your friends and you’re having a good time. All of a sudden, one of your friends, let’s call her X, starts talking about hijaab. Uh oh. Whoopsy daisy. You don’t like how this conversation is going….you can already feel that you aren’t going to agree with what your friend says. Sure enough, X says something along the lines of “Hijab is only about being modest. I mean, the Qur’an doesn’t even say the word hair”…All of your other friends are nodding and looking at that other friend, X, like she’s some sort of Saint or something.

What to do? Speak up? Tell them that the Qura’n does say to obey the Prophet (Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam) and that is where the exact ruling comes from? Have them think of you as some preacher, or worse, an extremist…Or you can be quiet and not say anything….

mumble You decide to mumble something about “being pretty sure that wasn’t right.

Course you say it just loud enough, I mean low enough, that they can’t hear you. But hey, at least you said, it right? Better than the last time where you didn’t say anything at all—having done your duty, you relax and join in the “Fun”.

What you don’ t know is that your other friend just went through the same inner struggle you went through and so did the other one too. Nobody spoke up because they were too scared too; everybody assumed that the entire group was unanimous in the decision that hijaab is “just modesty” …and because everybody thought everybody else agreed with it, nobody wanted to oppose the entire group, so everybody was quiet about it. This is actually defined by sociologists as groupthink- and it occurs in all places and all times.

BUT! This is not Islamic thinking. In Islam, we are told to “Speak up when something is wrong!” Just listen to the Prophet (Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam’s) hadith:

“Whosoever of you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart; and that is the weakest of faith.”

Now some of you might be thinking- well yeah, we’re thinking in our hearts that is wrong, isn’t that okay? But pay attention to the hadith: it says: “If he is not able to do so”— meaning you better have no way of speaking up. You see, it is not enough for you to be good and to leave others. Not enough at all:

It was reported that Allah ordered Jibreel to destroy a village that had become extremely corrupted, but Jibreel asked Allah, “O Allah, in this village is your servant that constantly prays to You”, Allah replied, “Start with him! For his face never changed with disapproval to what had been going on.” Because he didn’t speak up, because he thought it was enough for him to be good, he too was punished with the sinners.


“God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others.”

So you walk onto the bus, I mean its bad enough it stinks of BO and cheesy feet, on top of that you have the sun melting the cheap glass windows and so a wave of burning plastic is given off, lovely! The atmosphere is….how can I put it without sounding very rude? It stinks really badly; I’ll just say that but know ‘stink’ in this context is an understatement.

Now if you find a seat on the bus in the summer then count yourself as being extremely fortunate. Everyone races each other to find a seat near a window, to get some whiff of fresh air. In addition to the bad atmosphere the road is bumpy because some authoritative half-a-brain decided to make road humps like every 5 steps and the new bus driver decides he enjoys driving at 0.5 MPH. Right about now is when the anger management is required but most of the time I can battle out my impatience thankfully so I just day dream. (more…)


Once upon a time, there was a boy who would get angry frequently. He would get angry over anything and everything. His father came up with an outlet for his anger.

 “Come here my son” he called for him. When the boy came, he was handed a bunch of nails and a hammer by his father.

“Whenever you’re angry, I want you to go out and hammer these nails in until you find yourself not angry anymore.”

Hmm…that sounded like a good way to let off some steam. So every single day you would find that boy outside hammering in nails into the fence.


Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatallahi Wa Barakatu

Personal Bubble

Ever sat in a restaurant or some public place where all of a sudden you just “feel” someone is disturbing your personal bubble. Yes, even though you are in a public place, we all have our bubble—that internal privacy. This bubble is more defined as the boundary that limits the interaction between the public and yourself. Now after having this “feeling”, you try to affirm it by turning around, only to find a low-eyed loser staring right back at you. Then that spine-chilling wink comes. You quickly turn back around, but it’s too late. You already threw up a bit in your mouth. So long for keeping your lunch down. Now the only thing that’s going through your mind is that you wish you hadn’t turned around in the first place, and by doing so, you’ve now granted yourself a new ‘friend’, a possible stalker if you may. (more…)

From an anonymous contributer

“You missed a spot!” The young girl said, pointing a finger at the window that her older sister was cleaning. Her sister did not look pleased. And why should she? Her hard work was being criticized by her idle sister.

Too many times we criticize our brethren, both in blood and in Islam, when we ourselves do not look at our own faults. How many times have we slandered our brothers, backbitten them, been harsh to them, and even boycotted them for something we could have easily done ourselves? And all this is usually done before any real attempt at naseehah is made. (more…)

Asalamu aliakum wa rahmat Allah wa barakatoo,

Niqabis Studying

Imagine. 20 girls jumping up on their desks, screaming because a mouse just went scurrying across their classroom. Do you see it? Do you hear it? The shrieks, the laughter, the confusion? Yeah, it was utter chaos, but it was a lot of fun, too. It really happened to my class back when I was in high school. And gosh, I miss those days.

Now, I’m in university. And yes, I am perfectly aware that there are perverse stalkers on the internet, which is why I’m not usually one to speak about my private life online. But, today, I’m going to be a little daring and say a detailed fact- I live in the UAE and I attend a segregated university. You’re thinking, “big deal”? Pretty ordinary. Well, it is a big deal. I finished 12 years of schooooool…a big deal to me! No, seriously, it’s more than that. It’s a bigger deal than that because a lot of the world has this image of Muslim/Arab girls being the oppressed daughters, the lowly wives, the uneducated girls…And you know what? We’re not.

In fact, hmm…well, wait. Are you ready for this? Are you sitting down because we wouldn’t want you to faint…

Thousands of Muslim women attend university. In the UAE, there are even universities made exclusively for women, such as Higher Colleges of Technology for Women. Think about that. Universities just for women. What does that mean? It means that women must be attending university, must be learning, graduating, getting degrees…if women weren’t going to the universities, the universities would have to have been shut down because let’s face it- in the end, universities run on the tuitions of the students, don’t they?

But that’s not all. Going to university isn’t really the “big deal.” The big deal is when we, Muslim women, earned our rights to get an education.

Take a wild guess…

A couple more guesses….

Okay, enough guessing. Time to spill the news. Wait, I just have to check one more time: you’re still sitting down, right? Sitting properly in your chair? Not balancing on only one leg of the chair? Good, good. You’re ready!


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