Marriage in Islam


  Assalamu Alaikum

Contributed by Sister Shoruoq

Since I reverted to Islam I’ve often done tons of research to know how to become the best wife I possibly can Inshaállah. I’ve noticed it’s very easy to find compiled lists of what a wife should and shouldn’t do but also noticed how hard it is to find that list for brothers. Why does everyone concentrate on the wife? Wife must obey the husband, wife should look pretty for husband, wife must keep a clean home, blah blah blah the list goes on. I’m not saying that the list isn’t in any way wrong because I try my best to practice those duties as a wife but I think “some” brothers also should remember they have duties more than just bringing in the money. So as to a few requests I’ve gotten from sisters here is a list I was able to compile from two articles written by scholars.

“Among His signs is the fact that he has created spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquillity with them; and he has put love and mercy between you. In that are signs for people who reflect.”
[Qur’an 30:21]

“They (wives) are garments for you, while you are garments for them.”
[Qur’an 2:187]

“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. “The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” [Bukhari and Muslim] (more…)

What’s your ideal husband/wife?”, “Would you let your husband marry again?” “”What would you do if your husband has a bad temper?”…and the list just goes on and on. We can sit around all day thinking up the countless hypothetical situations which may potentially affect us one day, but we ignore the key things that will definitely affect us one day. We daydream about marriage as if its some sort endless bliss, but when we get married, we think its a nightmare only because we weren’t realistic in our approach towards it to begin with. We enter the marriage by stressing ourselves out with expenses that can be easily done without, such as what type of tablecloth, chair covers, napkins, etc have to be used at the wedding just so we can live the fairy tale.

It is narrated by Sayyidina Anas ibn Malik (Radiallahu Anhum) that Sayyidina Rasulullah (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam) has said,
“When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”

[Al-Tirmidhi # 3096, Bayhaqi transmitted it in Shu’ab al-Iman]

–Waiit! There is more. Continue on please.